Auld Lang Syne
Before you stream the Guy Lombardo orchestra playing a musical version of Robert Burns’ poem, we must have the obligatory year-end review starting with the purpose expressed in the inaugural post: …created to provide meaningful and useful messages leading one to a more fulfilling life because I want to be helpful and I enjoy writing them. Expectations v. Reality. Intent. Originally,...
Take That Step
Definition It is time to refine the goal definition referenced in the previous message. A goal is a desired result beyond your current position requiring meaningful growth. “Habits” are the activities undertaken to reach the goal. Continuing practices that have allowed you to enjoy excellent wellness over the past five years is worthwhile but not a goal for this discussion. Strengthening...
Now Where?
Self-limiting Beliefs. We are told we can do anything, or most people whose accomplishments we idolize did not start with or possess anything we do not have. Dutifully, our minds race to becoming President of the United States, inventor of the next iPhone, or owning a private island in the Maldives. Regretfully, we do not immediately consider becoming spouse or parent of the year. Aside from...
What to Do?
What to Do? Now is the time we look toward next year and begin formulating New Year’s resolutions or goals. Too often, we do not engage in the prerequisite thinking needed for effective goal-setting, and our goals are inconsistent, inadequate, or fail to account for our predispositions. If you are not a goal-setter, I can only say, “In the absence of clearly defined goals, we become strangely...
Draw The Line
Doing it Wrong We all have or had a nemesis, the parent who nags you about having children, a boss who calls you on the weekend, or the friend who is always an hour late for dinner. We reach a breaking point, grit our teeth, and threaten that the relationship is over if they ever do “that” again. In one apparent fell swoop, we go from tolerating the behavior to issuing a relationship-ending...