Running From or Going Towards?
We tend to focus a good deal of our time and effort attempting to stop negative habits. We also have a significant emotional investment in them as our minds are plagued by awareness of the habit and pointed reminders every time it is indulged. Avoidance We typically implement techniques designed to avoid the activity or punish ourselves for engaging in it. If the habit is using foul language,...
Attaboy/girl for All the Right Reasons
What is the purpose of accolades and what do we do with them? Acceptance First, accept the compliment graciously by thanking the person who provided it. Often, we respond flippantly in an attempt at humility. Have you ever said, “Yes, the dress is pretty but it makes my butt look big” or “Yes, I finished the marathon but I ran slowly”? These well-intentioned expressions of humility reject or...
Keep Your Head Up or You Will Miss the Best Part
How did we get here? In an information age that has (i) morphed from two cans connected by a string to wireless connectivity reaching every corner of the globe, (ii) expanded from three network TV channels to hundreds of 24-hour cable/streaming channels, and (iii) social media networks with millions of accounts controlled by provocative influencers, our minds are unavoidably lured by and...
Not Everything of Value is Worth Doing
Do you know what frequently stops you from doing what you want and should do? It is simply saying “yes” to things you should say “no” to. Today’s message is not about deciding which activities are consistent with your goals (essential and the subject of another article), but deciding among those activities that lead you to accomplish your goals. Given our finite time resources, every activity...
Learning Brilliantly Delivered as the Revelation of Ignorance
The Regret All learning fills a void where ignorance once occupied. Perhaps a less off-putting word may be “unknowing,” but we must accept the harsh light of reality. When you have a little length in the tooth, there can be a tendency to feel bad you remained ignorant of particular information for so long. Of course, you are in good company. The salt and pepper-haired crowd often say, “All I...