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Yes, Even the SOB

Yes, Even the SOB

No Way! You often hear, “I will not forgive her until she apologizes.”  When we make forgiveness contingent on the offender expressing remorse, offering an apology, and making amends, we do not appreciate the purpose of forgiveness or the consequences of unforgiveness. The forgiver is forgiveness’s first beneficiary.  The act of forgiving releases the wounded from the emotional burden inevitably...

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With Us or Against Us?

With Us or Against Us?

Don’t Throw the Baby out with the Bathwater It seems like we must answer every issue with a binary choice: yes or no.  The all-or-nothing standard leads us to believe that disagreement over part is disagreement over the whole, leading to unnecessary alienation.   You either approve of the political party’s entire platform or are labeled a RINO (Republican in name only).  As a presidential...

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Father Time’s Reality Check

Father Time’s Reality Check

For my 60th birthday last year, I wrote the typical, funny, "I can't believe I'm here" stories about reaching a milestone birthday.  Some harsh reality set in in the past twelve months, but it also validated last year's message.  Reality Sets In Rather than hearing I looked too good to be 60, I endured abundant episodes indicating my appearance was age-appropriate.   When I delivered my mom to...

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Attaboy/girl for All the Right Reasons

Attaboy/girl for All the Right Reasons

What is the purpose of accolades, and what do we do with them? Acceptance First, accept the compliment graciously by thanking the provider.  Often, we respond flippantly in an attempt at humility.  Have you ever said, “Yes, the dress is pretty, but my butt looks big,” or “Yes, I finished the marathon, but I ran too slowly”?  These well-intentioned expressions of humility reject or belittle the...

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Don’t Silence, Give Them a Megaphone

Don’t Silence, Give Them a Megaphone

Sweet Land of Liberty? In a country proclaiming freedom of speech as its preeminent 1st Amendment constitutional value, we now seek to silence voices instead of protecting them.   College students protest to cancel speakers with “incorrect” viewpoints.  News programs are now echo chambers for one side’s political views.  When a panel includes those with opposing positions, the resulting...

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